“Where Did I Go Wrong?” – Feeling Lost In Your Twenties

feeling lost in twenties

Recently a friend posted an article on Facebook about how half of my age bracket are settling down and getting married, whilst the other half are searching for that next Tinder-date fix. You can read the article here. It seems to suggest that those in their twenties are on a clear crossroads – you either settle down, or you have casual sex every weekend. You’re either married with kids, or “discovering yourself”.

Where did I go wrong then? I have no intention of getting married and having kids, and I definitely have no intention of flaunting my wares over a dating app full of creepers. I’ve been in this weird stationary stage for a little while now, and I can’t help but wonder what the next step is going to be if I don’t conform to one of these two categories that pigeon-hole twenty-somethings.

I’ve grown up to discover that we never really have everything “sussed”. Perhaps as a teenager I thought that when I became an “adult”, I’d have it all figured out. I’d have the dream job that paid for a nice place and my social calendar would be full to the brim. The fact of the matter is, I’m 25, I have a decent job but I live with my parents and struggle to fill my weekends with any social engagements at all. That affordable, beautiful place to live, luxurious salary and vast friendship circle is a fantasy.

Perhaps that will change over time – everything will click into place and life will feel all that more fulfilling. Perhaps it won’t. It’s really tough being in your twenties, because it really is an in-betweeny age where so much is uncertain. I wish it filled me with a sense of adventure and excitement for all that’s possible, but instead it feels me with this insatiable urge to figure everything out, map out my future and know where I’m heading.

But where to start?

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Comments

  1. Cat Fyson

    Thanks hun! Yeah it's definitely a weird place. I don't think everyone else really does have it together though, they're just better at hiding it! x

  2. Angie Americana

    This is a great post love! I turn 27 next month and still haven't really figured out this whole adulthood thing. We're all just taking this one day in a time Xx
    -AA-

  3. Cat Fyson

    Thanks sweet, glad you liked it! I know exactly what you mean… definitely taking it one day at a time and remember that there's no need to rush things! x

  4. JaseyJade

    Although I am not yet in my twenties.. I do understand you. That fantasy may come, but for some people it doesn't. and that is when you'll have to find other things to fill in. like you commented.. nobody has it all together I believe. everyone has something missing. It can be big or small but no one's life is perfect. They are indeed better at hiding it. In whatever weird place you are right now, I believe it's best to do different things, experiences, find new things.. Your path will come in front of you like a surprise.. it may not be the path you pictured but it's maybe/probably the one for you..
    I hope I made any sense here.
    Goodluck, I know you can go through this, Jade x

  5. KatieLouise

    I'm 22 and I've finished university now, and I have no idea where my life is going at the moment. I'm definitely not ready to settle down, and I suppose I do want to 'discover myself', but not by going out every weekend and scrolling through tinder! Dear me. Saying that, this certainly seems to be the case with all the people on my facebook!

  6. KatieLouise

    I'm 22 and I've finished university now, and I have no idea where my life is going at the moment. I'm definitely not ready to settle down, and I suppose I do want to 'discover myself', but not by going out every weekend and scrolling through tinder! Dear me. Saying that, this certainly seems to be the case with all the people on my facebook!

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