At this time of year, the Internet and traditional media are both flooded with content all about “New Year, New You” and goal-setting. Everywhere you look, there’s a headline or an influencer telling you how the New Year is the chance to lose weight, be happier blah blah blah.
That’s cool and all if it works for you, but I am hopeless at goal-setting.
Well no, that’s not technically true. I’m great at creating goals I’m just shit at remembering to follow them.
I recently spent a day putting together goals for my business – but I’m willing to bet against myself that I will totally forget about them by the end of January.
So for 2019, I’ve decided to do something a bit different. Instead of setting specific personal development goals that will gather dust, I am instead going to focus on a one-word mantra. That one word is “patience”.
Well, because I’m really bloody impatient. My lack of patience is so closely tied to my anxiety and the stress I can often feel. I am determined to get to the end of the day (aka the list of tasks), instead of taking my time and realising that actually yes, I can tick off all the to-dos without getting wound up about it. I can get stuck in traffic and ~not~ resort to serious road rage. I can be running late and the world won’t come to an end because of it.
I have been slowly getting better at being patient, but in 2019 I want to be more conscious of the moments that I slip, to notice them and to learn from them.
Instead of getting angry, I want to use those moments of impatience to ~slow down~, take in what’s going on around me and remember that too much of our precious time is spent on forward-thinking and forward-planning. It’s wasted on what needs to happen next and where we need to be.
There really is no rush, and often when we take our time, we actually achieve more.
Here are just some of the things I will be patient with during 2019:
My physical health
Instead of setting a goal to lose weight, I want to practice patience in my fitness journey. I haven’t been to the gym for months, and I’ve actually missed it so I’m looking forward to joining the local club and using exercise as a way to unwind as well as feel healthier in my skin.
My mental health
Practising patience is without a doubt a mindful activity – in 2019 I am continuing my bi-weekly counselling sessions and the daily journalling that have both carried me through 2018.
On top of that, I plan to keep starting my days with “self-care time”, rather than diving right into the to-do list. Nothing beats starting the day with a cup of tea and easing yourself in rather than racing to the finish line.
Being a business owner is filled with days, weeks and sometimes months of wishing things would “hurry up”. From getting more work (and as a result, money) through the door, to getting deserved recognition for your hard work. Not gonna lie, getting a testimonial from the happiest client can still feel like drawing blood from a stone!
I plan to be more patient with my business by reminding myself of how far I’ve come already and to plan ahead as much as I can to ensure I am doing my best to get myself “out there”. I am starting 2019 with a big project that is going to take up a lot of my time, so taking a small step away from marketing the business for the first quarter of the year should reignite that spark when I’m able to dedicate more time to it again.
Often my impatience can affect the ones around me – especially those that are much more laid back than I am!
By practising patience, I hope to be more forgiving of our differences and to work to their schedule rather than the much faster one happening in my head!
What’s your one-word mantra for 2019?