I’ve never been the “cool” kid. SHOCKER I know. I always hung out with the outcasts at school, and have never been particularly interested in being popular. I won’t lie and tell you it was always easy, because there was definitely a degree of having to come to terms with the fact that I am one way, and other people are different. There was even a time when I thought that other people were better.
But as I’ve gotten older, things about me that were once flaws are now weapons. My over-sensitivity has turned me into someone who cares for others and also cares about what is right. My short stature has changed from being lost in the crowds to standing out because I’m petite, I’m feisty and being tall is overrated anyway. Although, ngl, I wouldn’t mind being just a couple of inches taller so I could at least be on the cusp of average height!
Owning who you are is about truly understanding who you are, and finding the benefits in that. In realising that just because you aren’t as confident as someone else, or that you look differently to others, it doesn’t make you any less of a person.
As well as this, it’s about realising that just because your lifestyle is different to other people, it doesn’t make it any less valid or any less important. Just because I’d rather binge a Netflix show or read a comic than go out and get drunk on the regular, doesn’t make me a lesser person. Just because the car I drive is old and a bit rusty, and the clothes I wear aren’t the latest fashions…you guessed it.
So how do you start owning who you are? By embracing it. Stop observing others and look inwards. Take some time to think about who you are, what you want to be and why. Wear the clothes you want to wear, visit the places you want to go, do the things you want to do…because you’ll only regret it if you hold yourself back.